People

June 25th, 2014

I have plenty of people to do things with, I just have no one to do nothing with.

Felicity Green

Never

April 18th, 2014

We were never really born, we will never really die.

Jack Kerouac

More Scrapes

April 14th, 2014

I Know

April 7th, 2014

Verdi

April 4th, 2014

VERDI

Integrity

April 2nd, 2014

In a person, look for intelligence, energy, and integrity – if s/he doesn’t have the last one, don’t even bother with the first two.

Warren Buffett

Orecchio

April 1st, 2014

Yin + Yang

March 31st, 2014

Ásgeir

March 31st, 2014

Intimacy & Insects

March 27th, 2014

Life is a spiritual exercise in evolving from an exoskeleton for support and survival to an endoskeleton. Think about it. When we get our emotional support and well-being from outside ourselves, everything someone says or does can set us off and ruin our day. Since we can’t control or predict what another person does, our moods are at the mercy of our environment. We can’t adapt to the situation if our intimate partner doesn’t behave the way we think they should. Everything is then perceived as a personal attack and attempt to upset us. Up goes our armor and it’s all-out war.

With an internal support structure, we can stand strong because our stability doesn’t depend on anything outside ourselves. We can be vulnerable and pay attention to what’s happening around us, knowing that whatever comes, we have the flexibility to adapt to the situation. There’s a reason we call cowards spineless: It takes great courage to drop your armor, expose your soft inside, and come to terms with the reality of what’s happening around you. It’s a powerful thing to then realize that you can survive it. When we examine our intimate relationships from this perspective, we realize that they aren’t for finding static, lifelong bliss like we see in the movies. They’re for helping us evolve a psycho-spiritual spine, a divine endoskeleton made from conscious self-awareness so that we can evolve into a better life without recreating the same problems for ourselves again and again. When we learn to find our emotional and spiritual support from inside ourselves, nothing that changes our environment or relationships can unsettle us.

Dr. Habib Sadeghi & Dr. Sherry Sami